Nothing is worse than going on a first date and having to put up with awkward silences while the two of you seek to find topics of discussion. It's the kind of encounter that would make you anxious every time you agreed to go out with someone new because it would be so uncomfortable. On the other hand, first dates can be fantastic if the talk is nonstop and you both find each other amusing, intriguing, and connected.
Sometimes your skill to start a conversation will be the only thing standing between awkward and great. Here are six suggestions for opening up the conversation so that you and your first date have a real chance of clicking.
Read up on current events before the date
Talking about current events is one of the best ways to start a fascinating conversation. Talking about the news is fascinating and a terrific way to get to know someone, whether it's about breaking news, a well-liked new film, or even the newest Apple product. Tip: Read The Skimm or tune in to a news station while driving for a quick, efficient method to catch up on the news.
Ask lots of questions
If you're stuck for words on your date, a simple rule of thumb to follow is to just ask them a question about themselves. As I have yet to encounter someone who found it difficult to talk about themselves, I can assure you that this will spark conversation. "Where were you raised?" What college did you attend? "Describe your employment for me." What do you like to do on the weekends? All of these inquiries are simple and enjoyable, and they will lead to simple and enjoyable dialogue.
Comment on his or her appearance
"I love your tie," I said. What's its source? Just one query may start a full discussion about purchasing. "Your hair looks really beautiful," can trigger a tale about how she recently had it trimmed and doesn't often wear it this short.
Be open and honest.
It's acceptable to say something like, "This is new to me and I haven't dated much, so I'm a little apprehensive." Everyone feels at peace when people are open and honest.
Listen to what your date is saying. Really listen
Have you ever gone on a date and asked the person a question, but you were so nervous that your thoughts were racing and you didn't really pay attention to their response? Try to pay attention to what your date is saying despite how understandable it may be for two reasons. One, it's crucial because you're getting to know the individual, and two, if you pay attention, you'll probably ask follow-up questions that will spark further discussion.
Laugh!
Having fun is the best thing you can do on a first date. How do you go about that? Make fun of yourself, keep things light, crack jokes, or just be entertaining while being honest. According to several research from It's Just Lunch, both men and women enjoy dates that are fun and upbeat. Laughter enhances one's attractiveness and frequently serves as a conversation-starter.
